Archive for the ‘Hissy Fits’ Category


Tuesday, November 27th, 2018


I was always taught to forgive after an apology. That was hard to do in most cases because kids were not really sorry. As I got a little older I realized teenagers weren’t really sorry either and young adults as well. I also quickly learned that when people are genuinely sorry their poor behavior is never ever repeated.

Instead of saying ‘I’m sorry’ some folks just don’t have it in them to apologize so they try to kill you with kindness hoping maybe you forgot or stalk all of your social media accounts hoping to get a friendly response.

As I grew into adulthood, I realized forgiveness is not for the other person, it is solely for me. Instead of spending a lot of time carrying heavy negative energy I learned to just let it go, with or without an apology, it took decades to come through but in the end, I feel lighter and happier.

Now should I let people back into my life after they clearly showed me who they really are? I’ve done that and then shortly afterwards regretted it.

Today I am more like the statement above. I do forgive for my benefit but some people need to understand that my forgiveness is for the past and not for future consideration.

HELLO 2018!

Monday, January 1st, 2018

So a new year has arrived. I am looking forward to moving into it with a positive attitude because I left 2017 feeling like – whatever.

I was not in the holiday spirit. Maybe because I was missing my sister who passed away, maybe because my little sister didn’t come to visit this year or maybe because the new house needs to be renovated and we haven’t started yet.

Whatever the reason I took this holiday season one day at a time. Now that 2017 is over I want to start all over again.

With that, HELLO 2018! I am looking forward to the great experiences you will provide for me!


See the image of the Hubs in the glass? I was trying to be creative. LOL! Taken right before midnight on December 31.

What Was I Thinking?!

Thursday, December 7th, 2017

I wore my favorite protective style, box braids, for many months and my hair responded by growing nicely. However my edges didn’t feel and do the same and decided to break off.

So with that I gave box braids a break and wore my other favorite protective style which is an afro draw-string ponytail. The thing is I felt my hair had to be blown-out and flat-ironed to look presentable in the afro puff. I didn’t think my hair would be able to pull back into a pony tail without the heat. I was wrong and because of that my curls taught me a lesson.

On wash day every two weeks I blew my hair dry then ran a Chi through it. I didn’t moisturize the way I should have because I thought my curls would shrink. After a few months of that, my hair couldn’t take it anymore, but my edges grew in!

To work with my edges and the rest of my curls I styled my hair in two-strand twists, pulled them back in a ponytail, pinned whatever fell out, then adjusted the afro puff. This style worked great and I was able to moisturize properly.

I don’t know what I was thinking before. I really don’t. I knew better but at that time I didn’t.

To try to rectify what I did while begging for forgiveness, I am taking daily doses of supplements that include vitamin A, B, C, D, E, a multi, biotin, hair, skin and nails plus Co Q 10 (anti-aging).

With all of this I wonder if my hair will get thicker?

Below I am revealing a large and extra large afro puff.






This Is So Me…

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2016

O…M…G!!! This photo is so me!!!

I can’t grow my hair to safe my life so when I saw this meme I had to share it and my on-going confusion on why I am still struggling.

Once upon a time I could grow my hair. That was when I lived in New York where humidity is high. Now that I am in the New Mexico desert, dry heat rules, and after five years my natural hair is still trying to adjust.


Folks here say five years is not a long time to adjust to the powerful southwestern temperature. My mom said it took her more than a decade to get her hair back in check. Now with 24 years as a resident, and a lot of product experimenting, her hair grows nicely.

I hope my curls adjust a lot sooner. Permed to Natural readers please pray for me.

What Is Going On With My Hair?!

Monday, April 4th, 2016

I don’t know what’s wrong with my hair. I mean it remains dry and brittle no matter what I do. Since I moved to New Mexico nothing works to keep it shiny and moist and I have used all types of moisture promise products. Plus my hair just stopped growing. I mainly keep it in protective styles. My braids come out between 6 to 8 weeks. I take Hair, Skin and Nails supplements in addition to Biotin and still nothing.


Okay to be fair to my hair the photos reveal my curls right after I took out my box braids.


Hair professionals have said my curls are healthy. However, it just doesn’t look the way I want it to. When I lived in New York my hair was doing a lot better. It grew and it was shiny and moist. The climate change has been too hard and I need to come up with another treatment fast!

Maybe trimming more often will help.

The Hot Comb!

Monday, January 25th, 2016


Yeah I remember that instrument on the stove burner in the picture all too well. I never understood why mothers, including my own, would fry, burn and cook their daughters’ hair in an attempt to make it look like someone else’s texture. I remember back in the day to have straight hair was a symbol of beauty, and today, all I can say to that is dang we were really messed up.

As a child after all of the fighting and yelling about “Let me get the kitchen,” I was often told I looked pretty and my hair did to. Sometimes I wondered what I looked like before with the hair God gave me.

When I was in grade school, before the two perms, two weeks apart, that changed my hair texture, my curls didn’t need straightening to look straight. After a wash my hair straightened naturally. That’s just how it was. After a shampoo no one believed me when I told them I did not get my hair straightened. For a special occasion or family trip my mother would straighten my hair and it was always a production. “Do you want your hair to look nappy?” as if that was a really bad thing “Yes” I would respond without hesitation.

I remember grown women from the neighborhood would be happy to volunteer to straighten my hair as well as my friends’ hair. They would pick hair that wasn’t there on the back of our necks just to bring the hot comb close to the skin so we could feel the steam. So mean. This made the process of achieving “beauty” painful and scary. I wonder if that experience had an effect on us girls today. What do you think?

My Everyday

Wednesday, October 21st, 2015

I haven’t done to much of anything with my hair lately. I’ve been sort of lazy but in actuality a bantu knot-out is a bantu knot-out. A twist-out is a twist-out. It’s all the same and nothing really changes.

My main issue has been my issue since 2011 and that’s dry brittle hair. I have worked on achieving and maintaining moist hair for years and I am still working on it.

I’ve tried lots of products designed to keep hair moist and lustrous but nothing really worked. However, my homemade mix of raw shea butter with pure castor oil incorporated with a leave-in or regular conditioner has helped.

My curls can stay out maybe two days but after that I have to put my hair in a protective style so it can regroup and moisten up.

I am also trying to grow my hair. I take biotin and other supplements and vitamins but at the moment nothing seems to be working right now.

I’m keeping it real. Maybe I’ll get an afro weave one day.


What Made Me Go Natural?

Tuesday, July 28th, 2015


This is an easy question. But the actual act should have taken place way before it did. What made me go natural? Well, I went natural because I wanted to live a healthier life style. I had been vegan and eating organic. I started to use natural and organic body butters, hair products, tooth pastes, deodorants, soaps and make up. So with all of that why not continue my growth of living healthy by letting go of hair perms.

Even though I was doing everything else natural it took me a long time to go natural with my hair and that is because I was afraid of corporate America. I soon realized corporate American didn’t like me and I didn’t like corporate American so after watching Chris Rock’s movie “Good Hair” my mind was made up.

What about you? What made you go natural? Please share your experience going natural with Permed to Natural. I know we all have a story to tell.