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This Is So Me…

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2016

O…M…G!!! This photo is so me!!!

I can’t grow my hair to safe my life so when I saw this meme I had to share it and my on-going confusion on why I am still struggling.

Once upon a time I could grow my hair. That was when I lived in New York where humidity is high. Now that I am in the New Mexico desert, dry heat rules, and after five years my natural hair is still trying to adjust.


Folks here say five years is not a long time to adjust to the powerful southwestern temperature. My mom said it took her more than a decade to get her hair back in check. Now with 24 years as a resident, and a lot of product experimenting, her hair grows nicely.

I hope my curls adjust a lot sooner. Permed to Natural readers please pray for me.

What Is Going On With My Hair?!

Monday, April 4th, 2016

I don’t know what’s wrong with my hair. I mean it remains dry and brittle no matter what I do. Since I moved to New Mexico nothing works to keep it shiny and moist and I have used all types of moisture promise products. Plus my hair just stopped growing. I mainly keep it in protective styles. My braids come out between 6 to 8 weeks. I take Hair, Skin and Nails supplements in addition to Biotin and still nothing.


Okay to be fair to my hair the photos reveal my curls right after I took out my box braids.


Hair professionals have said my curls are healthy. However, it just doesn’t look the way I want it to. When I lived in New York my hair was doing a lot better. It grew and it was shiny and moist. The climate change has been too hard and I need to come up with another treatment fast!

Maybe trimming more often will help.

The Hot Comb!

Monday, January 25th, 2016


Yeah I remember that instrument on the stove burner in the picture all too well. I never understood why mothers, including my own, would fry, burn and cook their daughters’ hair in an attempt to make it look like someone else’s texture. I remember back in the day to have straight hair was a symbol of beauty, and today, all I can say to that is dang we were really messed up.

As a child after all of the fighting and yelling about “Let me get the kitchen,” I was often told I looked pretty and my hair did to. Sometimes I wondered what I looked like before with the hair God gave me.

When I was in grade school, before the two perms, two weeks apart, that changed my hair texture, my curls didn’t need straightening to look straight. After a wash my hair straightened naturally. That’s just how it was. After a shampoo no one believed me when I told them I did not get my hair straightened. For a special occasion or family trip my mother would straighten my hair and it was always a production. “Do you want your hair to look nappy?” as if that was a really bad thing “Yes” I would respond without hesitation.

I remember grown women from the neighborhood would be happy to volunteer to straighten my hair as well as my friends’ hair. They would pick hair that wasn’t there on the back of our necks just to bring the hot comb close to the skin so we could feel the steam. So mean. This made the process of achieving “beauty” painful and scary. I wonder if that experience had an effect on us girls today. What do you think?

My Everyday

Wednesday, October 21st, 2015

I haven’t done to much of anything with my hair lately. I’ve been sort of lazy but in actuality a bantu knot-out is a bantu knot-out. A twist-out is a twist-out. It’s all the same and nothing really changes.

My main issue has been my issue since 2011 and that’s dry brittle hair. I have worked on achieving and maintaining moist hair for years and I am still working on it.

I’ve tried lots of products designed to keep hair moist and lustrous but nothing really worked. However, my homemade mix of raw shea butter with pure castor oil incorporated with a leave-in or regular conditioner has helped.

My curls can stay out maybe two days but after that I have to put my hair in a protective style so it can regroup and moisten up.

I am also trying to grow my hair. I take biotin and other supplements and vitamins but at the moment nothing seems to be working right now.

I’m keeping it real. Maybe I’ll get an afro weave one day.


What Made Me Go Natural?

Tuesday, July 28th, 2015


This is an easy question. But the actual act should have taken place way before it did. What made me go natural? Well, I went natural because I wanted to live a healthier life style. I had been vegan and eating organic. I started to use natural and organic body butters, hair products, tooth pastes, deodorants, soaps and make up. So with all of that why not continue my growth of living healthy by letting go of hair perms.

Even though I was doing everything else natural it took me a long time to go natural with my hair and that is because I was afraid of corporate America. I soon realized corporate American didn’t like me and I didn’t like corporate American so after watching Chris Rock’s movie “Good Hair” my mind was made up.

What about you? What made you go natural? Please share your experience going natural with Permed to Natural. I know we all have a story to tell.

Where Did These Extra Pounds Come From???

Monday, June 1st, 2015

I cannot believe how much weight I have gained. I don’t even know where it came from. One day I weighed a certain amount and then, all of a sudden, I was 5, 8, 10 pounds heavier then when I first moved to New Mexico.

Could it be the slower paced lifestyle had an influence on my weight gain? I am more relaxed here. I do move slower. I have adopted the lifestyle of “manana” nicely.

Being married is also a factor. I eat everyday with my husband. I like to cook for him and he enjoys eating and he makes me eat with him because he doesn’t want to eat alone. So with all of that, I am certain that has caused extra pounds, flab and belly fat to stick to me.

I don’t walk as much either. Living in New York I walked a lot. I enjoyed it. When we first moved into our house I used to walk to the mall area where Target and other stores are located. It’s not far, maybe 15 minutes one way tops. My neighbors used to watch me.  When I returned with a Target bag they knew I had walked to the mall and would make comments like, “Wow you walked to Target?” and then just look at me like I was crazy.

I ordered Shaun T”s Hip Hop Abs video. It worked. I used it for a few months and then got bored of doing the same routines with the same music. I didn’t join a gym because I was sort of bored with that, too. I have always been the hyper-type who needs change all of the time.

But now I have to do something. This makes no sense. If I continue the lifestyle of “manana” soon I will be wearing a size larger and if that happens I will truly flip out because I am not buying new clothes for the larger me.

I like to walk and I still do that during my lunch break but it is not enough. So I signed up to take African Dance class on Fridays and I love it!!! I haven’t studied African Dance since I was in my twenties, and before that, when I was as a child in dancing school. So I had to get used to dancing again. I’m eating less too with an increase in green leafy vegetables – especially spinach because it’s the best!

I’m also thinking about incorporating pole classes into my work out regiment. Sexy right? The more I do the faster this weight will come off. I’m older now and I realized I have to work extra hard just to see a speck of change.

Some things are really just not fair.


Happy and excited after African Dance class.

Always and Forever An Activist!

Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

My Soror, Civil Rights Hero, Joan Trumpauer Mulholland

Once an activist, always an activist. #MichaelBrown #HandsUpDontShoot #DeltaSigmaTheta



Wednesday, July 16th, 2014


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