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I Will Miss Him

Sunday, January 15th, 2017

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The New Year Is Here!

Monday, January 2nd, 2017

Another year is here! We are now in 2017. I hope this year will be better than 2016. My sister passing away unexpectedly was a shock to my family that will last a life time I’m sure. Just today, over coffee at Starbucks, my mother and I were talking about it. Talking about the subject and the same inner-topics we already spoke about 100 times seems to be healing. So we do it until the pain temporarily goes away. Only time will heal us completely.

However, to magically brightening things up this Christmas season, my little sister (from my father) finally found her way from Charlotte to Albuquerque. Even though we talk on the phone often, and I see what she is up to on Facebook, I haven’t physically seen her or my nephew in 11 years. When I first moved to New Mexico I tried to get her to visit and even relocate but it didn’t happen. Now the timing couldn’t have been better and below are some photos from her 8-day stay. Enjoy!

15622295_10210375816426047_8871403012784007458_nFirst night in Albuquerque. What a joy!

DisplayImage (3)No time to rest from the long flight. Off to the North Pole to take pictures with Santa.

15672675_10210377926838806_8332581437806112309_nTime to explore the beauty of New Mexico.

15672494_10210396781910171_9187431697948014899_nFabulous experience at the Sanctuario De Chimayo in Chimayo, NM.

15590465_10210380278137587_3878094767850256685_nChillin’ with a glass of wine at the Casa Rondena Winery.

15621685_10210398997485559_7329934178066124021_nMy nephew getting his bowling on at The Main Event.

15672771_10210398995805517_1063697156235328400_nVideo games galore at The Main Event.

15589896_10210398996765541_1346321311193668752_nLaser tag was too much fun!

15727280_10210404991755412_358773588939547699_nWarming up in her first African dance class EVER. Wait. Her first dance class period!! She was clueless but had fun.

15622619_10210407819146095_8668415922413965910_nChristmas Eve tradition celebrating Luminaria in Old Town.

15697580_10210412842671680_7452800593134882190_nChristmas morning. Let’s tear up our Christmas presents in a matter of seconds!

15741300_10210407362774686_721209004328195071_nI did a lot of baking. Here are red and green velvet vegan Christmas cookies. My nephew loved them.

15823399_10210486227826263_2470661924036266521_nThe other part of Christmas. FOOD!

15622774_1184634488318244_2925162020562674658_nThis movie is a must see!

15781814_10210424326438767_8846365850084074299_nThe volcanoes were awesome.

15741309_10210424285277738_3892420272770842989_nJambo Cafe is one of the best African cuisine restaurants in Santa Fe.

15740905_10210428648466815_7434206677015501235_nI heard a lot about Meow Wolf and this interactive technology museum lives up to its reputation.

15780810_10210443041986644_3523178206238971199_nThis is the old western gangster Billy The Kid’s grave site. The museum was interesting. It didn’t hold much of Billy’s stuff (he died young. Was always on the run. So he probably didn’t have anything) but it was still very interesting.

15726705_10210453929498825_289608651615379023_nWe didn’t do all that I planned like visit the White Sands or take a ride in a hot air balloon but hopefully she’ll return soon so those things can be done.

15747657_10210471931668868_1856122529148165090_nThe Hubs and I rang in the New Year at home. He caught a cold I had a couple of weeks prior. I was tired anyway so a quiet night at home was just what I needed.

Happy New Year!

Own Your Story!

Thursday, December 15th, 2016

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My Sister…

Thursday, September 1st, 2016

Our relationship was never one of great support and love. The few times I went to her for support she revealed it in an attempt to hurt. Filled with a rage of jealously she was purposely abusive, and being addicted to drugs, didn’t help our relationship at all.

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For decades we had an on-again off-again (mostly off) sister situation. It was the norm. Our relationship was extremely complex and those emotions wore my mother out. Hell, they wore me OUT! It takes a lot of negative energy to fight with someone up close and a far and that is just what we did. I often noticed other big sisters looking out for their little sisters and couldn’t help but wonder why I didn’t have that from my sister. When I competed in beauty pageants sibling abuse was my platform. Because of the work I did to bring awareness to the situation producers at the Dr. Phil Show noticed what I had done and asked if I would share my story nationwide. Of course I did.

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After more than 11 years we made up when we bumped into each other at Costco. She was with our mom and we started to chat. Her more than me. I was leery of her and only allowed our relationship to grow little at a time. I had a cook-out for our nephew and invited my sister and her husband. Then we had Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner at my house. After that came various events such as luncheons for African American women, outings with our mother, and together we planned a surprise birthday party for our mom which was her first birthday party ever!

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So as our relationship improved over the last year who knew I would get a call in the night of morning telling me Toni is dead. She was in a lot of pain from brain surgery and a few car accidents and took maybe too much medication to alleviate the issue. After receiving the news, the pain had me scream, “That Fucking Bitch!” multiple times as I let out the emotions my body felt.

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This is the second sibling I buried. My brother died 20 years ago. I am my mother’s last child so I am very protective of her as she is of me. I never wanted my mother to experience such an ordeal ever again no matter what but free will is real. It can interrupt any and all plans.

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Summer Lovin’

Tuesday, June 21st, 2016

Hey! Hey! Hey! My favorite time of the year is here!

Hot, dry, blazing weather. Just the way I like it. Summer is so fabulous! Too fabulous for words and since I was a little girl, until now, I love experiencing, longer days, shorter nights, morning hikes, backyard barbecues, sunsets, sunrises, free concerts, ice cream, snow cones, frosted smoothies, homemade lemonade, maxi dresses, sandals, sunglasses, floppy hats, bronze skin, cornrows, big afros and box braids! What more could I ask for? Well, I could ask for a lot of things, but for now I am enjoying the hot weather while it last.

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I haven’t really written any hair articles lately and that’s because I have been preoccupied with so many things. I can’t talk about everything right now but one day with my lawyer’s approval I will.

In the meantime, enjoy your summer and all that the warm nights bring!

“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees, just as things grow in fast movies, I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.”
—F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

“August rain: the best of the summer gone, and the new fall not yet born. The odd uneven time.”
―Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

“The castle grounds were gleaming in the sunlight as though freshly painted; the cloudless sky smiled at itself in the smoothly sparkling lake, the satin-green lawns rippled occasionally in a gentle breeze: June had arrived.”
―J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

“I have only to break into the tightness of a strawberry, and I see summer – its dust and lowering skies.”
―Toni Morrison, The Bluest Eye

LEMONADE

Wednesday, May 11th, 2016

Everything about LEMONADE is addictive.

Lemonade is one of my favorite summer drinks. I make it from scratch squeezing six fresh lemons, adding cane sugar, and water into a pitcher. The sweet and tart flavor blend quenches my thirst during the warm months. I also use lemon based soaps and creams that provide a touch of cool twang that is much needed around that time of year. So I have always enjoyed lemons.

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Now … By now … I am sure everyone has heard of Queen Bey’s new audio and visual collection titled LEMONADE.

I was hooked on it the first three seconds it aired on HBO. I got HBO free that weekend and was able to watch it several times before I purchased the CD/DVD combo. Now I can play it anytime I like for as long as I like, and the Hubs is like, “Oh no not again.” But, it’s like, yes dear just one more time that normally turns into four or five more times.

Anybody who knows me knows when I’m really into something I can watch it a hundred times and not get tired of it.

LEMONADE is the bomb. My favorite songs are “Sorry” and “Don’t Hurt Yourself” and my favorite on the visual is, well, all of them. I love the Louisiana setting.

I don’t get excited about many things but I am about this new body of work. Maybe because, just like many, I can relate. We all have experienced being cheated on or being the cheater ourselves. Then perhaps dealing with reconciliation. These songs penetrate familiar emotions whose voice people hear their own stories in, whatever the stories may be.

GO VEGANS!!!

Thursday, March 17th, 2016

Ummmm. I saw this video by PETA and had to post it. The video was initially slated as a TV commercial but got banned. I don’t think it was banned because it was too sexy I think the commercial was banned because it revealed facts that having a healthy/vegan diet can lead to a better sex life and healthier life overall. Check it out, judge for yourself and share your thoughts. Enjoy!

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Why Was This Vegan Commercial Banned From TV?

It has been known forever that vegans generally are in better health than non-vegans. This applies to sexual health as well. Most vegan experts agree that vegans are better in bed than those who consume diets with animal products. Do vegans last longer in bed?

I’d like to know why matters of human health are considered too risqué for TV? Why can we have TV shows and movies on every night that deal with sexuality but as soon as a racy vegan commercial is put on TV it’s too taboo for air? Could it be a conspiracy? It surely can’t because of the content. You can see much worse in the average sitcom.

Is it true that vegans have better sex than non-vegans? How about the claim that vegans ‘last longer? Below is what we do know about a vegan diet.

  • Foods with higher levels of zinc and vitamin B increase sexual desire and libido. These are primarily vegan foods.
  • Vegans typically are slimmer leading to what is widely considered as being sexy (yes we understand many prefer a fuller body)
  • Vegans have been shown to have more energy and stamina than their meat eating counterparts
  • Some studies have shown that vegans smell better, have better skin, and yes…even have better tasting bodily secretions.

While it’s not an absolute that vegans last longer, it’s not an unreasonable assumption. Either way, it really cleared the way for an exciting and attention getting video from PETA! We enjoyed watching it. What do you think?

 

 

 

My DNA Results Have Arrived!

Monday, February 8th, 2016

This past holiday season my favorite Christmas present from my husband was an AncestryDNA kit. I think I casually mentioned maybe once or twice that I wanted to take the test after watching the commercial on TV. I couldn’t wait to receive my results so I quickly spit in the provided tube and off my DNA went to their laboratory in Utah. Approximately five weeks later I received an email that announced my results were ready. I clicked on it with anticipation and my computer froze. I wanted to scream but I didn’t. I waited for the system to get itself together, and when it did, there before me were my results from 17 different regions. After viewing the chart I discovered that I am:

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79% African

  • Ivory Coast/Ghana – 26%
  • Congo – 22% – This may explain why I connected to the people in the Congo when I lived there as a Peace Corps Volunteer
  • Senegal – 16%
  • Benin/Togo – 9%
  • African South-Central Hunter Gatherers – 2%
  • Mali – 2%
  • African Southeastern Bantu – <1%
  • Nigerian – <1%

<1% Asian

  • Asia Central
    • Kazakhstan
    • Iran
    • Kyrqyzstan
    • Turkmenistan
    • Uzbekistan
    • Afghanistan

19% European

  • Great Britain – 11% – This may explain why I connect so easily with everyone I meet from the UK. I often thought I was British in a past life but it turns out I am British in this life.
  • Iberian Peninsula – 2%
  • Italy/Greece – 2%
  • Ireland – 2% – My maiden name is Irish.
  • Scandinavia – <1%
  • Finland/Northwest Russia – <1%
  • Europe East – <1%

<1% West Asian

  • Caucasus Region
    • Ukraine
    • Romania
    • Turkey
    • Syria
    • Iran
    • Iraq
    • Turkmenistan
    • Afghanistan
    • Pakistan
    • Saudi Arabia
    • U.A.E.

I love my results. I knew my bloodline was busy but the Middle East was a surprise. I was also extremely shocked to find that I am 0% Native American. Now see I know many blacks back in the day claimed to have Native blood and I know from watching a PBS special that most blacks do NOT possess Native blood but white blood instead. I know that history but didn’t think I was one of those blacks because I was told my great grandmother was Native. She raised my mother and her children and my mom always said, “Mama was Native American.” In addition my mom has stories of her great grandmother singing Native songs to her when she was a young child. So, with all of that, where is my Native blood?

I started thinking and thinking about my family with a side eye. Who are these people? Then I called Ancestry to discuss my results. I needed more answers. They sent a video that explained siblings can have different DNA results because they inherit half from their mother and half from their father and might not inherit the same half. However children will share the same DNA that their parents have but still won’t inherit all. Okay so again where is my Native blood?

The video continued and explained all DNA from grandparents and great grandparents do NOT pass on to every child. As time goes on through generations one can easily loose strains of DNA.

So that’s what happened to my Native blood? That particular gene, for whatever reason, did not pass on to me. WOW!

I told my mother she should take the test too.

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