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More From Our Wedding Vow Renewal

Saturday, September 9th, 2017

Five, ten, fifteen, twenty, those numbers, and alike, are well rounded numbers to do something with. So for this “wood” year of marriage the Hubs and I decided to renew our wedding vows because five is a good number to do something with.

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Our second wedding consisted of just us. We didn’t have family or friends there and no fancy reception took place. We wanted to honor and respect our marriage without it being busy and one of the best places to do that in New Mexico is at Hacienda Vargas in Algodones.

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The wedding chapel at Hacienda Vargas offers the grace and elegance of historical New Mexico. In its rural setting the adobe chapel is more than 200 years old and care has been taken to preserve the spirit of the Old West, the influence of the original Spanish settlers, and the presence of the Pueblo Indian culture.

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Now who would have thunk five years after our first wedding we would renew our vows? I didn’t think of doing this. It was all the Hubs’ idea. However, once it was agreed, everything else was me.

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What I learned after being married for five years is marriage is not easy. Everyone says that and everyone who say that is telling the truth. If we were just dating I would have moved on. But marriage is different. We took vows before God and those are to be taken seriously. During our marriage the human in us has stepped in but God stepped in and snapped us back into place. Who else is better to do that than HIM?

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I also learned that the Hubs is the only man who has been able to slip under my skin, invade my blood, and seize my heart. He is my soulmate and I plan to stay married to him in this lifetime and continue well into the next.

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I just realized something. Around the time we first married we purchased a house and then got married. Now we did the same thing. We purchased a different house and then re-married. Wow. How about that? I wonder what positive venture will happen to us in the future?

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Grey Hair Don’t Care

Sunday, August 6th, 2017

Grey hair don’t care. That’s what the Hubs said about continuously dyeing his hair.

It didn’t take him long to go all grey and the results are in the picture below.

Honestly, I like it better brown, but he will always be Da Baby no matter what!

Hey, check out my draw-string afro. I love all of the drama it provides.

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Lady Slipper Orchid

Friday, June 9th, 2017

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I spotted this beauty during a hike in the Santa Fe mountains. This orchid is actually called, Lady Slipper, and is a rare and unusual plant native to northern North America.

Just sharing.

Gathering of Nations

Thursday, May 4th, 2017

I enjoy living in Albuquerque for reasons of cool things to do all of the time. Some folks will disagree but there is a lot of fun stuff to do here. For example, I have been meaning to go to Gathering of Nations since I got here but haven’t done it until now, and wow, what an experience!

Gathering of Nations is a Powwow that has grown to one of the world’s most recognized annual festivals that spotlights Native people coming together to celebrate and share culture, singing and dancing.

It has been in Albuquerque for 33 years and hopefully there are no plans to move. Below are some photos, but I swear, they do nothing to display the true beauty of this event. ENJOY!

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I Will Miss Him

Sunday, January 15th, 2017

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The New Year Is Here!

Monday, January 2nd, 2017

Another year is here! We are now in 2017. I hope this year will be better than 2016. My sister passing away unexpectedly was a shock to my family that will last a life time I’m sure. Just today, over coffee at Starbucks, my mother and I were talking about it. Talking about the subject and the same inner-topics we already spoke about 100 times seems to be healing. So we do it until the pain temporarily goes away. Only time will heal us completely.

However, to magically brightening things up this Christmas season, my little sister (from my father) finally found her way from Charlotte to Albuquerque. Even though we talk on the phone often, and I see what she is up to on Facebook, I haven’t physically seen her or my nephew in 11 years. When I first moved to New Mexico I tried to get her to visit and even relocate but it didn’t happen. Now the timing couldn’t have been better and below are some photos from her 8-day stay. Enjoy!

15622295_10210375816426047_8871403012784007458_nFirst night in Albuquerque. What a joy!

DisplayImage (3)No time to rest from the long flight. Off to the North Pole to take pictures with Santa.

15672675_10210377926838806_8332581437806112309_nTime to explore the beauty of New Mexico.

15672494_10210396781910171_9187431697948014899_nFabulous experience at the Sanctuario De Chimayo in Chimayo, NM.

15590465_10210380278137587_3878094767850256685_nChillin’ with a glass of wine at the Casa Rondena Winery.

15621685_10210398997485559_7329934178066124021_nMy nephew getting his bowling on at The Main Event.

15672771_10210398995805517_1063697156235328400_nVideo games galore at The Main Event.

15589896_10210398996765541_1346321311193668752_nLaser tag was too much fun!

15727280_10210404991755412_358773588939547699_nWarming up in her first African dance class EVER. Wait. Her first dance class period!! She was clueless but had fun.

15622619_10210407819146095_8668415922413965910_nChristmas Eve tradition celebrating Luminaria in Old Town.

15697580_10210412842671680_7452800593134882190_nChristmas morning. Let’s tear up our Christmas presents in a matter of seconds!

15741300_10210407362774686_721209004328195071_nI did a lot of baking. Here are red and green velvet vegan Christmas cookies. My nephew loved them.

15823399_10210486227826263_2470661924036266521_nThe other part of Christmas. FOOD!

15622774_1184634488318244_2925162020562674658_nThis movie is a must see!

15781814_10210424326438767_8846365850084074299_nThe volcanoes were awesome.

15741309_10210424285277738_3892420272770842989_nJambo Cafe is one of the best African cuisine restaurants in Santa Fe.

15740905_10210428648466815_7434206677015501235_nI heard a lot about Meow Wolf and this interactive technology museum lives up to its reputation.

15780810_10210443041986644_3523178206238971199_nThis is the old western gangster Billy The Kid’s grave site. The museum was interesting. It didn’t hold much of Billy’s stuff (he died young. Was always on the run. So he probably didn’t have anything) but it was still very interesting.

15726705_10210453929498825_289608651615379023_nWe didn’t do all that I planned like visit the White Sands or take a ride in a hot air balloon but hopefully she’ll return soon so those things can be done.

15747657_10210471931668868_1856122529148165090_nThe Hubs and I rang in the New Year at home. He caught a cold I had a couple of weeks prior. I was tired anyway so a quiet night at home was just what I needed.

Happy New Year!

Own Your Story!

Thursday, December 15th, 2016

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My Sister…

Thursday, September 1st, 2016

Our relationship was never one of great support and love. The few times I went to her for support she revealed it in an attempt to hurt. Filled with a rage of jealously she was purposely abusive, and being addicted to drugs, didn’t help our relationship at all.

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For decades we had an on-again off-again (mostly off) sister situation. It was the norm. Our relationship was extremely complex and those emotions wore my mother out. Hell, they wore me OUT! It takes a lot of negative energy to fight with someone up close and a far and that is just what we did. I often noticed other big sisters looking out for their little sisters and couldn’t help but wonder why I didn’t have that from my sister. When I competed in beauty pageants sibling abuse was my platform. Because of the work I did to bring awareness to the situation producers at the Dr. Phil Show noticed what I had done and asked if I would share my story nationwide. Of course I did.

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After more than 11 years we made up when we bumped into each other at Costco. She was with our mom and we started to chat. Her more than me. I was leery of her and only allowed our relationship to grow little at a time. I had a cook-out for our nephew and invited my sister and her husband. Then we had Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner at my house. After that came various events such as luncheons for African American women, outings with our mother, and together we planned a surprise birthday party for our mom which was her first birthday party ever!

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So as our relationship improved over the last year who knew I would get a call in the night of morning telling me Toni is dead. She was in a lot of pain from brain surgery and a few car accidents and took maybe too much medication to alleviate the issue. After receiving the news, the pain had me scream, “That Fucking Bitch!” multiple times as I let out the emotions my body felt.

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This is the second sibling I buried. My brother died 20 years ago. I am my mother’s last child so I am very protective of her as she is of me. I never wanted my mother to experience such an ordeal ever again no matter what but free will is real. It can interrupt any and all plans.

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