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Forgiveness

Tuesday, November 27th, 2018

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I was always taught to forgive after an apology. That was hard to do in most cases because kids were not really sorry. As I got a little older I realized teenagers weren’t really sorry either and young adults as well. I also quickly learned that when people are genuinely sorry their poor behavior is never ever repeated.

Instead of saying ‘I’m sorry’ some folks just don’t have it in them to apologize so they try to kill you with kindness hoping maybe you forgot or stalk all of your social media accounts hoping to get a friendly response.

As I grew into adulthood, I realized forgiveness is not for the other person, it is solely for me. Instead of spending a lot of time carrying heavy negative energy I learned to just let it go, with or without an apology, it took decades to come through but in the end, I feel lighter and happier.

Now should I let people back into my life after they clearly showed me who they really are? I’ve done that and then shortly afterwards regretted it.

Today I am more like the statement above. I do forgive for my benefit but some people need to understand that my forgiveness is for the past and not for future consideration.

Harry Married Meghan

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2018

I followed their romance as much as I could through internet articles, news highlights and the movie that appeared on Lifetime “Harry and Meghan: A Royal Romance.”

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Even though I never saw not one episode of “Suits” I became a huge Meghan Markle fan when I discovered the beautiful half black, half white, actress was dating Prince Harry.

The night before their wedding I went to bed around midnight MT. Somehow three hours later I woke up by myself and was able to watch the entire wedding, with excitement, starting with the guests entering the church.

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Everything about the wedding was beautiful. Meghan looked flawless. She is a natural beauty. With what appeared to be just a hint of make up she sparkled royally walking down the aisle, with the future King, and standing next to her groom.

Her African-American heritage was extremely visible at the wedding and for that I was proud. People had things to say about Bishop Michael Curry’s sermon, but believe me, everything about that wedding was approved by the Queen! Don’t think it wasn’t.

I also loved the fact that Meghan’s black side of the family didn’t act a fool the way her white side did. What an embarrassment! I know other black folks thought the same thing. Writing a tell-all book, writing a letter to the Prince telling him to cancel the wedding, the father faking heart condition and other family appearing in London, who were not invited to the wedding, to gossip about her on a British morning show. Just insane.

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One of my favorite moments was, after the couple married, they went outside to meet the public, and all could hear the African women doing their wedding call of cheer. It completely reminded me of my Peace Corps days in the Congo. No media spotted that.

HELLO 2018!

Monday, January 1st, 2018

So a new year has arrived. I am looking forward to moving into it with a positive attitude because I left 2017 feeling like – whatever.

I was not in the holiday spirit. Maybe because I was missing my sister who passed away, maybe because my little sister didn’t come to visit this year or maybe because the new house needs to be renovated and we haven’t started yet.

Whatever the reason I took this holiday season one day at a time. Now that 2017 is over I want to start all over again.

With that, HELLO 2018! I am looking forward to the great experiences you will provide for me!

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See the image of the Hubs in the glass? I was trying to be creative. LOL! Taken right before midnight on December 31.

More From Our Wedding Vow Renewal

Saturday, September 9th, 2017

Five, ten, fifteen, twenty, those numbers, and alike, are well rounded numbers to do something with. So for this “wood” year of marriage the Hubs and I decided to renew our wedding vows because five is a good number to do something with.

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Our second wedding consisted of just us. We didn’t have family or friends there and no fancy reception took place. We wanted to honor and respect our marriage without it being busy and one of the best places to do that in New Mexico is at Hacienda Vargas in Algodones.

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The wedding chapel at Hacienda Vargas offers the grace and elegance of historical New Mexico. In its rural setting the adobe chapel is more than 200 years old and care has been taken to preserve the spirit of the Old West, the influence of the original Spanish settlers, and the presence of the Pueblo Indian culture.

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Now who would have thunk five years after our first wedding we would renew our vows? I didn’t think of doing this. It was all the Hubs’ idea. However, once it was agreed, everything else was me.

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What I learned after being married for five years is marriage is not easy. Everyone says that and everyone who say that is telling the truth. If we were just dating I would have moved on. But marriage is different. We took vows before God and those are to be taken seriously. During our marriage the human in us has stepped in but God stepped in and snapped us back into place. Who else is better to do that than HIM?

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I also learned that the Hubs is the only man who has been able to slip under my skin, invade my blood, and seize my heart. He is my soulmate and I plan to stay married to him in this lifetime and continue well into the next.

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I just realized something. Around the time we first married we purchased a house and then got married. Now we did the same thing. We purchased a different house and then re-married. Wow. How about that? I wonder what positive venture will happen to us in the future?

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Grey Hair Don’t Care

Sunday, August 6th, 2017

Grey hair don’t care. That’s what the Hubs said about continuously dyeing his hair.

It didn’t take him long to go all grey and the results are in the picture below.

Honestly, I like it better brown, but he will always be Da Baby no matter what!

Hey, check out my draw-string afro. I love all of the drama it provides.

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Lady Slipper Orchid

Friday, June 9th, 2017

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I spotted this beauty during a hike in the Santa Fe mountains. This orchid is actually called, Lady Slipper, and is a rare and unusual plant native to northern North America.

Just sharing.

Gathering of Nations

Thursday, May 4th, 2017

I enjoy living in Albuquerque for reasons of cool things to do all of the time. Some folks will disagree but there is a lot of fun stuff to do here. For example, I have been meaning to go to Gathering of Nations since I got here but haven’t done it until now, and wow, what an experience!

Gathering of Nations is a Powwow that has grown to one of the world’s most recognized annual festivals that spotlights Native people coming together to celebrate and share culture, singing and dancing.

It has been in Albuquerque for 33 years and hopefully there are no plans to move. Below are some photos, but I swear, they do nothing to display the true beauty of this event. ENJOY!

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I Will Miss Him

Sunday, January 15th, 2017

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