Forgiveness

Tuesday, November 27th, 2018

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I was always taught to forgive after an apology. That was hard to do in most cases because kids were not really sorry. As I got a little older I realized teenagers weren’t really sorry either and young adults as well. I also quickly learned that when people are genuinely sorry their poor behavior is never ever repeated.

Instead of saying ‘I’m sorry’ some folks just don’t have it in them to apologize so they try to kill you with kindness hoping maybe you forgot or stalk all of your social media accounts hoping to get a friendly response.

As I grew into adulthood, I realized forgiveness is not for the other person, it is solely for me. Instead of spending a lot of time carrying heavy negative energy I learned to just let it go, with or without an apology, it took decades to come through but in the end, I feel lighter and happier.

Now should I let people back into my life after they clearly showed me who they really are? I’ve done that and then shortly afterwards regretted it.

Today I am more like the statement above. I do forgive for my benefit but some people need to understand that my forgiveness is for the past and not for future consideration.

25th Anniversary Celebration

Tuesday, November 6th, 2018

Today, November 6, 2018 marks my 25th anniversary as a Soror of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.

I am not sure where the time went but I am thrilled to be in this moment with my lines sisters and look forward to serving during the next 25 years!

My line sisters had a weekend celebration in New York. I didn’t go but was happy to receive pictures of the festivities.

Today I celebrated by taking a few pictures in my 25th anniversary Delta sweater and enjoying a crimson and cream drink (virgin) with my husband.

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Some of my service duties with Delta included serving on the National Commission of Arts and Letters for six years and having the opportunity to incorporate various programs and appearances with my work clients, Soror Nikki Giovanni and Lawry’s Seasoned Salt, on a national and local level.

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We were 62 and the largest line the Brooklyn Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. had until just a few years ago.  I am in the last row. Number six starting the left.

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Look for number 53!

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Simply delicious!

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Prima Donna

Monday, July 30th, 2018

Okay. Wow. I truly love The Lip Bar lipsticks. Vegan lip color made with the right amount of pigmentation for all skin tones.

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In the photos I am wearing a liquid matte called Prima Donna. I searched for the right matte purple in a natural brand for a long time. I became frustrated. Colors were too light and glossy. I almost gave up but then read about The Lip Bar and discovered their line of wonderful vegan tones.

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I wore Prima Donna all day and was shocked that the color, especially in New Mexico’s dry climate, didn’t dry out or crack. I didn’t have to retouch my lipstick. I wasn’t used to that. I was relieved.

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I will definitely purchase more…

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Harry Married Meghan

Wednesday, May 23rd, 2018

I followed their romance as much as I could through internet articles, news highlights and the movie that appeared on Lifetime “Harry and Meghan: A Royal Romance.”

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Even though I never saw not one episode of “Suits” I became a huge Meghan Markle fan when I discovered the beautiful half black, half white, actress was dating Prince Harry.

The night before their wedding I went to bed around midnight MT. Somehow three hours later I woke up by myself and was able to watch the entire wedding, with excitement, starting with the guests entering the church.

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Everything about the wedding was beautiful. Meghan looked flawless. She is a natural beauty. With what appeared to be just a hint of make up she sparkled royally walking down the aisle, with the future King, and standing next to her groom.

Her African-American heritage was extremely visible at the wedding and for that I was proud. People had things to say about Bishop Michael Curry’s sermon, but believe me, everything about that wedding was approved by the Queen! Don’t think it wasn’t.

I also loved the fact that Meghan’s black side of the family didn’t act a fool the way her white side did. What an embarrassment! I know other black folks thought the same thing. Writing a tell-all book, writing a letter to the Prince telling him to cancel the wedding, the father faking heart condition and other family appearing in London, who were not invited to the wedding, to gossip about her on a British morning show. Just insane.

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One of my favorite moments was, after the couple married, they went outside to meet the public, and all could hear the African women doing their wedding call of cheer. It completely reminded me of my Peace Corps days in the Congo. No media spotted that.

Easter Sunday

Sunday, April 1st, 2018

This Easter Sunday I stayed home and basically cooked. For breakfast I made grits and cheese, which took 2 hours, yams (something I picked up in Jamaica) and bacon and sausages for The Hubs.

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For dinner stew was the main dish. I made beef stew (It took hours for the meat to get tender) and vegan beef stew with carrots, unions, peppers, brown rice, corn on the comb and spinach.

Even though I was on my feet watching religious movies, chopping, stirring, measuring and whatever else, I enjoyed preparing these meals for my husband and when he said the food was perfect, I knew it was all worth it.

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So I forgot to take pictures. The food looked good and the table set for two was cute. But The Hubs kept rushing me to eat so I forgot.

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I did take a picture during a brief break. The dogs always manage to find their way in front of the camera.

Natural Hair News

Monday, March 12th, 2018

I am very pleased natural hair is still making the news and is still inspiring to many. It seems as if natural hair is here to stay. It’s not the style for a decade and then that’s it. The posted story of a little girl watching a news caster on television made me proud of my people and proud of my hair. Check it out below.

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North Texas traffic anchor Demetria Obilor gets up in the early hours of the morning to deliver a traffic report for WFAA-TV, rocking her gorgeous natural hair all the while. But unknown to the anchor, there was a little girl on the other side of the screen getting up early too to see someone with hair that looked just like hers on television.

On Thursday, Obilor invited her “mini-me,” 4-year-old Karsyn, to join her on the set of her “News 8 Daybreak” morning broadcast so they could celebrate their natural hair together.

“Growing up, I didn’t see any news anchors with curly hair or natural hair or even braids,” Obilor said during a Facebook live segment for WFAA-TV. That’s why she understands that for Karsyn, seeing a woman rock natural hair on television is “a big deal.”

The 4-year-old’s story first came to light on Sunday when her mom, Tiffny Jones, posted on Twitter about how the child would watch Obilor on television and say, “Mommy … look, my hair is like Demtria Obilor from TV.”

Photos of Karsyn’s beauty and self-assurance touched Obilor. A few days later, the mother and daughter joined the traffic anchor on television for a special segment.

Karsyn, who was full of energy, helped deliver the traffic report for Thursday morning right next to her role model.

Later on, Karsyn and her mother joined Obilor for a Facebook live session to chat about how to care for natural hair and how important it is for little girls to see themselves represented on television.

“Representation … in society is just so important for us,” Jones said on the segment. “I want her to see other people in the media that look just like her and for her to just rock it and be proud and embrace it.”

Obilor herself has faced racism in the past for her natural hair. While she was working as a traffic reporter in Las Vegas last May, she reportedly received an email from a viewer who ridiculed her hair. The viewer claimed he had to “fast forward whenever [Obilor] comes on” television.

Obilor posted an image of the email to Twitter, describing it as a “racist, hateful” message.

On Thursday, Obilor emphasized that it is crucial to make sure young black girls are encouraged to feel positive about themselves. She was struck by Karsyn’s confidence.

“She’s such a confident girl, and that’s so important to instill at such a young age,” Obilor said.

Jones said that even though it’s a “struggle on a daily basis” to take care of her daughter’s natural hair, Karsyn doesn’t want to do anything different with her hair.

“She loves [her natural hair] because she likes to shake it,” the mom said, laughing as the little girl demonstrated by waving her head side to side.

“We tell her to be herself. Do not let anybody put you in a bubble, you do whatever your heart desires,” Jones said.

 

 

 

 

I See Some Improvement

Friday, February 9th, 2018

As I have always known, but now truly practice, protective styles are the best way for my hair to improve itself. Period.

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I have kept my hair in two-strand twists sporting an Afro puff ponytail since October and I have noticed a change that I am very happy with.

I am just going to keep on keeping on. There is no need to change anything. The less I do to my hair the more it appreciates being left alone and therefore grows and looks healthy.

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After washing I saturated my curls in Shea Moisture’s Low Porosity Leave-In Conditioner and let it air dry.

Wow you can really see the Hubs in my sun glasses. LOL!

 

HELLO 2018!

Monday, January 1st, 2018

So a new year has arrived. I am looking forward to moving into it with a positive attitude because I left 2017 feeling like – whatever.

I was not in the holiday spirit. Maybe because I was missing my sister who passed away, maybe because my little sister didn’t come to visit this year or maybe because the new house needs to be renovated and we haven’t started yet.

Whatever the reason I took this holiday season one day at a time. Now that 2017 is over I want to start all over again.

With that, HELLO 2018! I am looking forward to the great experiences you will provide for me!

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See the image of the Hubs in the glass? I was trying to be creative. LOL! Taken right before midnight on December 31.