My Favorite Fall Activity

Friday, September 23rd, 2016

Fall just rolled in yesterday and I am already excited about the season’s activities. I don’t know why I can’t wait for Halloween to come. I am not going to do anything but hand out candy. I am looking forward to Thanksgiving but that is going to be low-key this year. I adore Fall colors. My home, my front yard, my wardrobe and my make-up all mirror the Fall colors I love. This blog even consists of Fall colors. The theme just moves me and I feel good in it.

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So my mom and I decided to go apple picking. Pick-your-own-apples is my favorite all-time Fall activity that my mom introduced to me when I was a teen. In New York we used to go every Fall at least twice in one season. As an adult I continued the family tradition and learned how to make all kinds of apple dishes.

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To my surprise this season apples are in full bloom in New Mexico and we found an orchard 45 minutes away in Belen. The folks there are the sweetest and the orchard is full of tasty apples on dwarf trees which makes picking them very easy.

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We picked Golden Delicious, Red Delicious and Winesaps apples and I can’t wait to start baking pies, dumplings and tarts. My husband is not a big fan of raw apples but even he was impressed with the sweetness of Costanza apples.

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Orchard dog chillin’.

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Our apples.

My Sister…

Thursday, September 1st, 2016

Our relationship was never one of great support and love. The few times I went to her for support she revealed it in an attempt to hurt. Filled with a rage of jealously she was purposely abusive and being addicted to drugs didn’t help our relationship at all.

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For decades we had an on-again off-again (mostly off) sister situation. It was the norm. Our relationship was extremely complex and those emotions wore my mother out. Hell, it wore me OUT! It takes a lot of negative energy to fight with someone up close and a far and that is just what we did. I often noticed other big sisters looking out for their little sisters and couldn’t help but wonder why I didn’t have that from my sister. When I competed in beauty pageants sibling abuse was my platform. Because of the work I did to bring awareness to this situation, producers at the Dr. Phil Show noticed what I had done and asked if I would share my story nationwide. Of course I did.

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After more than 11 years we made up when we bumped into each other at Costco. She was with our mom and we started to chat. Her more than me. I was leery of her and only allowed our relationship to grow little at a time. I had a cook-out for our nephew and invited my sister and her husband. Then we had Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner at my house. After that came various events such as luncheons for African American women, outings with our mother, and together we planned a surprise birthday party for our mom which was her first birthday party ever!

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So as our relationship improved over the last year who knew I would get a call in the night of morning telling me Toni is dead. She was in a lot of pain from brain surgery and a few car accidents and took medication to alleviate the issue. After receiving the news, the pain  had me scream, “That Fucking Bitch!” multiple times as I let out the emotions my body felt.

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This is the second sibling I buried. My brother died 20 years ago. I am my mother’s last child so I am very protective of her as she is of me. I never wanted my mother to experience such an ordeal ever again no matter what but free will is real. It can interrupt any and all plans.

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This Is So Me…

Tuesday, August 2nd, 2016

O…M…G!!! This photo is so me!!!

I can’t grow my hair to safe my life so when I saw this meme I had to share it and my on-going confusion on why I am still struggling.

Once upon a time I could grow my hair. That was when I lived in New York where humidity is high. Now that I am in the New Mexico desert, dry heat rules, and after five years my natural hair is still trying to adjust.

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Folks here say five years is not a long time to adjust to the powerful southwestern temperature. My mom said it took her more than a decade to get her hair back in check. Now with 24 years as a resident, and a lot of product experimenting, her hair grows nicely.

I hope my curls adjust a lot sooner. Permed to Natural readers please pray for me.

Hair Envy! This Is For Real!

Wednesday, July 20th, 2016

I really enjoyed watching this video and wanted to share it for you guys to see.

I always liked Michaela Pereira I remember meeting her when she hosted a local news show in New York. I booked one of my clients on the morning program and had the opportunity to ride the elevator with her. She was very friendly and I took pleasure in following her career.

Enjoy!

DIY Braid Spray

Monday, July 4th, 2016

As some of you may know I like to keep my hair in braids because of the dry southwestern climate I live in. Braids are a great protective style that holds in much needed moisture.

One day I decided I needed a good braid spray. One that was light and provided the moisture my hair craved. During my shopping search I couldn’t find a spray I thought would work so I started to look around in my personal collection to see what I could find.

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I had a half bottle of Shea Moisture’s Coconut & Hibiscus Hold & Shine Moisture Mist in my collection of hair products and thought about adding a light moisturizing oil to it to see how it would work. I had a variety of oils in my pantry but selected extra virgin olive oil to create the DIY spray.

With a half bottle of mist, I added olive oil until it was full, afterwards I spritzed my scalp and braids until I felt the moisture of the oil. It felt really good. My scalp was relieved. I could tell.

I have to shake the bottle before each use because the mist and oil likes to separate.

I use my homemade product almost daily. It’s a great way to provide moisture and seal it all in in one quick, fun, easy step.

Summer Lovin’

Tuesday, June 21st, 2016

Hey! Hey! Hey! My favorite time of the year is here!

Hot, dry, blazing weather. Just the way I like it. Summer is so fabulous! Too fabulous for words and since I was a little girl, until now, I love experiencing, longer days, shorter nights, morning hikes, backyard barbecues, sunsets, sunrises, free concerts, ice cream, snow cones, frosted smoothies, homemade lemonade, maxi dresses, sandals, sunglasses, floppy hats, bronze skin, cornrows, big afros and box braids! What more could I ask for? Well, I could ask for a lot of things, but for now I am enjoying the hot weather while it last.

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I haven’t really written any hair articles lately and that’s because I have been preoccupied with so many things. I can’t talk about everything right now but one day with my lawyer’s approval I will.

In the meantime, enjoy your summer and all that the warm nights bring!

“And so with the sunshine and the great bursts of leaves growing on the trees, just as things grow in fast movies, I had that familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer.”
—F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

“August rain: the best of the summer gone, and the new fall not yet born. The odd uneven time.”
―Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

“The castle grounds were gleaming in the sunlight as though freshly painted; the cloudless sky smiled at itself in the smoothly sparkling lake, the satin-green lawns rippled occasionally in a gentle breeze: June had arrived.”
―J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

“I have only to break into the tightness of a strawberry, and I see summer – its dust and lowering skies.”
―Toni Morrison, The Bluest Eye

Shea Moisture – Low Porosity Protein-Free Line

Monday, May 30th, 2016

Now that I know my hair is low porosity I recently started to use Shea Moisture’s Low Porosity Protein-Free products. This line includes a shampoo, conditioner and leave-in conditioner. For about four weeks I have used this product and have not experienced hard, dry, brittle hair. Before it was soft and manageable only just after using certain products. Now, at any given day, when I touch my hair just to feel if the softness is still present, to my surprise it is. Because I live in New Mexico that is a very big deal!

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I apply the leave-in conditioner after I shampoo and condition my hair and also to twist my curls and when I wear an Afro. My mother can’t believe the change. She said now your hair is going to grow. I hope so.

While applying the product the softness isn’t there but when my curls are dry the moisture and softness is noticeable.

I didn’t want to write a post about this line right away because I wanted to wait to see how my hair would respond to the new line. Overall I am pleased and happy my hair is finally happy.

I hope this is it regarding trying different hair products.

LEMONADE

Wednesday, May 11th, 2016

Everything about LEMONADE is addictive.

Lemonade is one of my favorite summer drinks. I make it from scratch squeezing six fresh lemons, adding cane sugar, and water into a pitcher. The sweet and tart flavor blend quenches my thirst during the warm months. I also use lemon based soaps and creams that provide a touch of cool twang that is much needed around that time of year. So I have always enjoyed lemons.

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Now … By now … I am sure everyone has heard of Queen Bey’s new audio and visual collection titled LEMONADE.

I was hooked on it the first three seconds it aired on HBO. I got HBO free that weekend and was able to watch it several times before I purchased the CD/DVD combo. Now I can play it anytime I like for as long as I like, and the Hubs is like, “Oh no not again.” But, it’s like, yes dear just one more time that normally turns into four or five more times.

Anybody who knows me knows when I’m really into something I can watch it a hundred times and not get tired of it.

LEMONADE is the bomb. My favorite songs are “Sorry” and “Don’t Hurt Yourself” and my favorite on the visual is, well, all of them. I love the Louisiana setting.

I don’t get excited about many things but I am about this new body of work. Maybe because, just like many, I can relate. We all have experienced being cheated on or being the cheater ourselves. Then perhaps dealing with reconciliation. These songs penetrate familiar emotions whose voice people hear their own stories in, whatever the stories may be.